A Letter to The World

A Letter to the World , Naira will be now exposed to,
From Naira’s Mumma.

Dear world,
Finally the girl from my womb than to my laps is ready to move and step in to your kingdom. Yes, like every other mom , I have my own set of worries and pains.

She is ready to learn the alphabets and their meanings, please help her frame good sentences that makes her make sense. I want her learn everything but while making her learn the harsh “meanings” please be soft to her.
Everything is not smooth here I know, but while making her go through twists and turns please make the puzzled road bit more smooth.
Yes I want her to know the difference between sour and sweet but while helping her taste sour please be lil more sweet to her.
She will have to help herself and manage herself though I am always there as backhand but she will have to be at her front foot now so please throw all the balls but with lil more courtesy and nonetheless I am always there as her wicket keeper and also the field person who will never let her wickets go down till I am able to protect them. But I want her to know some days will be your may be you can make your century even but on same days you may have to loose even on first ball be ready to accept everytime everything if you can’t score much that day let your game be on fields then . I want you to make her learn this well but again be lil more loose in this .
She should know all the synonyms and antonyms well but while guiding her on opposite please be more on her side she will learn them slowly but make her understand that wisely again in this be patient on her grasping don’t be harsh please be lil more lenient.

I have helped her learn the five senses , I want her now to learn and master the sixth sense , help her explore and learn more but be lil more elaborative and open but not cruel to her.

I am desperate but scared too, as I have been through never want her too, but this is the rule no matter what she has too, I can not keep her always under one roof to touch sky she has to be free to fly.

God bless her may almighty always guide her on choosing the correct path and freezing the wrong doers and let her set her own set of rules , I want her to be her own self no matter whatever she choose my dear world , just be lil more nice to her.

From,
A more concerned as every other mom actually.

FALSE- Assumption; ICU – Solution..

FALSE-Assumption that leads us to a.depressing and self degrading phase

ICU- solution can bring back the lost charm in life.Yes, we have unintentionally created a premises around us with FALSE assumption and that is the core reason of many low times of our lives.

Fear of emotions-We have been through this almost everytime. If we share any emotions many have taken advantage of this. The fear of being exploited when in the circle of emotions we have now restricted ourselves from showing our true emotions. This has ruined the situation more as now we smile even when we are hurt, we agree even when we strongly disagree and have contradict views but we still agree to it.

ICU solution-Your I, means your soul also your eye…is watching you; every moment is with you; and they know you don\’t feel good right now still you smiling. So atleast let us be true to ourselves. Don\’t hide , go and fight…if you feel like crying don\’t hesitate cry with your I,, who always C – U.

All rounder in all:-The wish to achieve perfection in every role and sphere of life leads you to the guilt road. You always end up regretting one or the other role result.

ICU solution- Please learn to \”Let Go\” … You can never be \”Perfect\”…kyunki \”per\” \”fact\” yahi hai ki you can never b a perfect daughter and daughter in law at the same time. If you have your professional commitment and personal commitment too both at the same time, you can be at both if you really can , but if you cannot then learn to let go else the guilt road does not have barricades, also does not carry danger zone sign.\

.Loneliness – I am.alone; I have no one to understand here.This thought has already spoiled many lives.How can you say you are lonely. When always an \”I\” is there with you. I need to be understood by myself rest is all illusion.

Why do I want you to understand me? Tell me? You are an individual and so m I. You have your own eyes with own perception and I have my own. Let us respect mutually.

“Self-Love is selfish love -For god\’s sake , please don\’t misinterpret. If I love, adore, appreciate, spend time.with myself, I am not being selfish it is just that I am loving the person who has always been with me through every thick and thin.

This is my ICU therepy man.Ek Baar fir se Selfish hoke, Apne liye jeo na

Expectations- Don\’t expect anything from others and also don\’t over expect anything from yourself too. If you accept this , then I guess it is end of every discussion.

The ICU solution- for this is adopt. \”It is OK strategy\”. Don\’t embarrass yourself if you couldn\’t achieve what you were expected. It Is Ok..not all the places are made to be marked my me. I cannot grace every function. Also, do not expect somebody to appreciate you. Please accept not everyone is blessed with strong \”Gurda\” you actually need that to accept that someone is better than you.

F- fear of emotions

A- all rounder

L- loneliness

S- self love is selfish love

E- expectations

Let us all get rid of these assumptions and live happily ever after.

Happy Beginnings!!!!

#FALSE-Assumption that leads us to a.depressing and self degrading phase.
#ICU- solution can bring back the lost charm in life.

Yes, we have unintentionally created a premises around us with FALSE assumption and that is the core reason of many low times of our lives.

1. Fear of emotions-
We have been through this almost everytime. If we share any emotions many have taken advantage of this. The fear of being exploited when in the circle of emotions we have now restricted ourselves from showing our true emotions. This has ruined the situation more as now we smile even when we are hurt, we agree even when we strongly disagree and have contradict views but we still agree to it.
ICU solution-
Your I, means your soul also your eye…is watching you; every moment is with you; and they know you don’t feel good right now still you smiling. So atleast let us be true to ourselves. Don’t hide , go and fight…if you feel like crying don’t hesitate cry with your I,, who always C – U.

2. All rounder in all:-
The wish to achieve perfection in every role and sphere of life leads you to the guilt road. You always end up regretting one or the other role result.
ICU solution- Please learn to “Let Go” … You can never be “Perfect”…kyunki “per” “fact” yahi hai ki you can never b a perfect daughter and daughter in law at the same time. If you have your professional commitment and personal commitment too both at the same time, you can be at both if you really can , but if you cannot then learn to let go else the guilt road does not have barricades, also does not carry danger zone sign.

3.Loneliness
I am.alone; I have no one to understand here.This thought has already spoiled many lives.
How can you say you are lonely. When always an “I” is there with you. I need to be understood by myself rest is all illusion.
Why do I want you to understand me? Tell me? You are an individual and so m I. You have your own eyes with own perception and I have my own. Let us respect mutually.

4. “Self-Love is selfish love”
For god’s sake , please don’t misinterpret. If I love, adore, appreciate, spend time.with myself, I am not being selfish it is just that I am loving the person who has always been with me through every thick and thin. This is my ICU therepy man.
“Ek Baar fir se Selfish hoke, Apne liye jeo na”

5. Expectations-
Don’t expect anything from others and also don’t over expect anything from yourself too. If you accept this , then I guess it is end of every discussion.

The ICU solution- for this is adopt. “It is OK strategy”. Don’t embarrass yourself if you couldn’t achieve what you were expected. It Is Ok..not all the places are made to be marked my me. I cannot grace every function. Also, do not expect somebody to appreciate you. Please accept not everyone is blessed with strong “Gurda” you actually need that to accept that someone is better than you.

F- fear of emotions
A- all rounder
L- loneliness
S- self love is selfish love
E- expectations

Let us all get rid of these assumptions and live happily ever after.

Happy Beginnings!!!!

Kahani Ghar Ghar ki

Hello, beautiful brides out there. Here I am today to make you feel light. Just go through the blog, flow with it, and where it ends ,you end up your thoughts there.

Leave every worry at the end here itself and move out lightly.

We females are already very much weight conscious then how can you afford to carry the weights of regrets, worry, expectations. Let it go ,and feel light.

My dear mummy ji, if you think ,this is what I have came for.. then I am sorry to say You are very wrong. I have many important task to do. Like..👇

😊

🤔Am I sure?

😔 No

This was the situation when I was only a “Daughter” with no suffix.

😔

I have actually many many many more tasks to be done so I am.here for 👇

Now, this depicts my clear present image.

My dear mummy ji, I have no issues in learning from you , only when you actually want me to “learn” new things ; you should not be there to make me “unlearn” completely what my maa taught me. I can manage with both teachings, trust me.

But when I can , then why can’t you too relearn some new ways of cooking.

Think about it. I don’t think it is that difficult.

Sometime I approach you to understand you more, but then your expression rather than helping me to know you ;confuse me. I fail to understand what’s in your mind.

And that misunderstanding creates your cunning image in my mind. I didn’t want to think even like this, but the distance you maintained with me provoked such thinking.

Is that my fault?

The distance forced us to battle and the winning trophy is Your son /my husband.

I want my daughter to share the most special bond with her grand parents. As I know she will be most pampered and blessed under your shelter.

But , I fail to understand why it bothers you so much and that too with such negative vibes , if I share the same bond with your son. I mean, even I left everything just for his “surname” . I guess besides that I had to struggle for everything even self respect.

Why do I have to always justify the kind of upbringings I want to give to my child?

Ok, I agree you love him but why does that makes you feel I don’t love my child.

My dear mother in law, I am always there for you in case you need me. As I know your daughter is also puzzled up with the responsibility she owe to her suffix. (In law)

I hope you know , it will be only me around you when in times of need, your daughter is away from you for her in laws. Let her do justice with her suffix , and let me do the same. Please.

Why to wait for this age for this bond. Let us step in now only.

Let us create those memories together which you had with your daughter and I had with my mom.

I don’t want to be your “daughter – in – law”. Let me be your “daughter by law” now.

This was just a simple attempt by me to make you all feel light. I know these 2 simple words bring with them a lot many twist and turns in our lives.

But , all I would say is,

“Socho, toh sab kuch

Na socho , toh kuch nhin.”

Means if you will think and regret or worry, you will get to meet n number of reasons but if you avoid and step forward you won’t even realise when and where things were out of scene now.

But , I guess , we are ready to take those 2 steps forward , we are actually waiting for the in laws to just take that 1 step.

Stay connected for more.

Apna dhyan rakhiyega

Phir milenge

Chalte chalte.

Love life.

Bride & Prejudice

Prejudice before marriage and after marriage is injurious to relationship. Prejudice “by” the bride and “for ” the bride can be the root cause of many loopholes.

Infact, LHS is always not equal to RHS… {Left hand side being bride and Right hand side ,of course as it is Right it has to be In laws.right? }And the reason behind is preconceived notions.

With tsunamis of (questions, doubts,) Himalayas of (hopes,expectations) oceans of(terrors,insecurities) the bride steps into the new surroundings.

Before speaking out her mind, she has to perform “differentiation” on her vocabulary every other time in her mind, then has to do the “integration” of the apt words, match them with Log sheet which was given to her by her husband during the courtship period and then finally after evaluation she can speak to strike “symmetry” with the new family.

God’s forbid if your response does not tally to their answer sheet, you are asked n number of irrelevant questions on your “trigonometric” upbringings with respect to your relationship with various sine and cosine blood related members.

Confused? Many of you must not be getting these tricky words of mathematics I used above. Exactly this is the case with you in your new family, they will intentionally use that vocabulary and dictionary with you which is far beyond their understanding too.

This is just to create the image in your mind that you are from another world and to make yourself a part of our high tech Humanity group , you will have to pass a lot many hurdles consisting of senseless speed breakers.

“Hamare yahan aise nhi krte”
“Hum yeh aise nhi bnate”
“Isko aise nhi saaf krte”
“Yeh kaise baat kr rhi, your pronunciation is not up to the mark.”
And what not.

Cmon, my new associate give me a break. I don’t know your family customs, traditions, rituals as I was sent to this world by god to some other place , I was made to learn their rituals and was bound to say “our rituals”.

Then, after a prescribed time, they sent me to this place now I am here to learn your customs. It will take time to unlearn those habits which were within me for the last 26 years. But that doesn’t at all justifies that I was careless girl, only concerned about my life giving least importance to family gathering and functions.

I was a part of every event but there I was always treated as daddy’s lill girl, mumma’s princess so the inadequacies or mishappenings were not allowed to touch me and my peace. Here, the scene is entirely different. Whatever it may be even the smallest issue like fuse bulb, empty tank or gas cylinder bidding goodbye to us before the deadline fixed by mother in law are crimes exclusively done my me, intentionally as per you. The complete accountability is on my shoulders.
Still, I don’t run away from things I too accept and try to adapt with every new challenges.

“Prejudice puzzle”

When I entered my tagged actual home, I was given this rule book titled” hamare yahan aisa hota hai” when I use the same line to explain “mere ghar mein aise hota”..why am I blamed for no reason?

Why does that makes everyone feel I am trying to change your habits which you people were accustomed to ?

Why does that gives you impression I am trying to dominate and forcing everyone to work according to my old place?

Even I was habitual of my surroundings but nevertheless I am trying to accept changes , then if you all have to change let’s say only 1 thing in your life then what’s the issue?

“Prejudice by husband”

Dear husband, when your distant maternal aunt can give me tips on our family planning and initiatives , then why just a simple question from my father about your future investment plans makes you so furious? Why does that sounds to you as interference?

“Your action proved my Prejudice”

Most of the mother in laws never give that space to brides to discuss their personal health issues with them. As their prejudgment guides them that this serious issue is with me before marriage that clearly justifies ,as per them ,that they are betrayed by my family as they sent their daughter with her past deficiencies covering behind many luxurious items.

I know you all must have tried sharing , and then realised that your deep dark secrets too are known not even only by your maid but also by the maid of your husband’s aunt living 4 stations away from you. That betrayal must have forced you to share your secrets and queries with your mom at least they are safe there , and this added one more feather to your hat- a disloyal family commander.

I don’t understand one thing , a single girl has to cope up with 5 ,6 ,7 or more than that members but those 7 members are least interested in coping up with 1 person.

Next item at their hit list is my “Degree“.

Why always my education is to be blamed?

Like, she is MBA , marketing tricks are in her blood, why would she give importance to us, for her she is the Supreme who knows everything.

If they say like this , you can convince and justify your statement my saying with due respect,

“Why can’t my MBA helps you accept that Human resource is also in my blood that has made me learn the importance of relationships and bonding with the fellow mates.”

Why to always first catch the negative side and work on them rather accept the positive side and work with them.

But, how?
I know it creates stress in the brides mind and life.

We can surely resolve this.

Brides, I would clarify , why am I still addressing you as bride , when the society has strictly fixed 5 days only when you can be crowned as bride.

The moment you have had your grah pravesh the crown is taken away presenting you the tag of “Daughter in law”.

Bride, gives you the privilege of being the Queen for the next 5 days. You will be given “extra attention” by everyone.

Daughter in law, on the other hand, is huge word that assigns you with infinite number of responsibility and accountability , expecting you to be “extra attentive”.

So the clarification is no matter who treats you what..you need to treat yourself as Queen to get rid of these Prejudice.

I will be back with the remedies too very soon.

Stay connected.

Till then
Apna dhyan rakhiyega

Phir milenge

Chalte chalte

Love yourself.

Trust me very soon you will be sharing this image with your mother in law to start with.

मायका

मायका

पा.

क्यों किया इतना लाड, क्यों दिया इतना प्यार
कि आज किसी की ऊँची आवाज़ से भी आंसू आ जाते बेशुमार।
क्यों सिखाया चलना , जब किसी और के भरोसे था छोड़ना
जितना तुमने संभाला है
उतना कोई भी नहीं कर पाया है
जब तेरी परवरिश पर ऊँगली उठती है
तो आँख मेरी भर आती है।

माँ…

तूने सब सिखाया,सब समझाया
अकेले चलने का पाठ पढ़ाया
और फिर किसी और के हाथ मुझे थमाया
तुझे लगता है जितना तू कर पाई अबतक
उतना कोई सोचेगा भी मेरे मरने तक।

भाई

इतना तूने हँसाया
पलकों पर बिठाया
पालकी में बैठा कर तू भी किसी और के भरोसे छोड़ आया।
तुझे लगता है जितनी तूने कदर की
उतनी किसी ने समझने की भी कोशिश की?

बहिन

अजीब अटूट रिश्ता है तुझसे
कल भी जब रोना था, तू ही थी
आज भी तू ही है।
कल भी तू ही समझकर समझाती थी
आज भी वो तू ही करती है।
जितना तूने संभाला उतना कोई सोच भी लेता
तो गम लड़की होने का कभी न होता।

यह हर उस लड़की के मन की बात है ,जो या तो शादी करके अभी अभी नए लोगों के साथ नया जीवन शुरू कर रही या फिर करने वाली है।ऐसा नहीं की शादी एक डर है बस वो एक मन की शंका है जो साथ रहने से काफी कम हो जाती है।

कैसे?

जानना चाहेंगे न।
जल्दी मिलूंगी एक उस नई सोच के साथ भी।

तब तक
ध्यान रखिएगा अपना।
फिर मिलेंगे
चलते चलते।

Love life.

Matrimony -before and after effects.

The most precious and the most unpredictable relationship is the matrimonial one. My upcoming blog posts will be entirely on these topics. I LL try to touch both the sides and the most positive and the one with less positive outlook. I will try to express the feelings of soon to be bride and already the one with n number of years experience. These posts will include poems and also much more than that.

Stay connected..

Few coming soon.

Love life.

Let’s Dissipate – Part 2

I hope you must have tried and tested the morning ritual ,if not yet, do give it a try. Be kind towards yourself. Trust me ,.it will work.

Here I am to work with you on the other half of the day which you spent in toing and froing to accomplish your routine.

Let us evaluate those thoughts that are more common to exist when in that zone.This is the place where you fulfill your duties with other created souls of god. It is here where you recieve maximum negative vibes, I believe.

What makes you low during these hours?

There are basically 2 reasons..one of them being “their success” and the other one being “your success”.

By success, here I mean both on personal and professional front. Say for instance as daughter in law if you perform your duty in the best way, then it’s your success and which will surely create a digestion problem to those who always give their best in effecting your image and your morale.

People pass on their negative vibes out of jealousy, their inferiority complex makes them do so. Now, what should be your take on this?

The solution you know it very well and you also apply it but only at some place. I hope you all must have seized the role of those you don’t want to get connect with on your watsapp and Facebook account. By working on to the privacy settings. These days we have options to even block those persons on WhatsApp whom I don’t want to be even aware of what’s going on in my life. Though, they are in my contact list as I am bound to connect with them due to some unavoidable reasons but I have restricted their existence on my social platforms. I don’t want their compliments or comments on my images or status as they don’t matter to me. This action has to be implied on to our life too.

You can meet any one in person , but own your remote control of emotions. Always train your mind , that the person coming now matters the least and whatever he/she says be it compliment or comment do not receive it. If you won’t receive the signal, the thoughts won’t be activated and the neutrality will help you be calm and composed.

Now, please don’t say that it’s easy said than done. As, if you really want to work on dissipation therepy , you have to train your sub concious mind.

And in case if you are disturbed by “their success”. You need to get set go now. Take it as a competitive spirit in a positive tone and start being active on it.

While going to bed , the task I personally do, of which many times my husband appreciate me for ( sometimes they don’t have any alternative , they have too)is if anyhow during any point of time at that particular day, if I did anything wrong or said anything mean to anyone I always accept my fault , accept that I said that as I was caught in the anger net by then , I always say sorry to that person either be it through msg or call but without accepting I don’t go to sleep as I don’t get a sound one then , I mean sukoon.

Why I do that?

I always feel may be suppose tomorrow I don’t get to meet this person unfortunately then why to bid a good bye with regrets. I don’t want anyone neither myself to survive or end with grudges in heart. Say it and feel light.

What made me learn do such things?

“Rawan”.

You know why on every Dusshera we burn Rawan. Once burn ,then it should end forever, right? Then what is the need of this ritual to be done every year.

As Rawan symbolises the evils , we humans are tend to commit mistakes , crimes of hurting the souls almost every other day.

We find ourselves swirl in the vicious circle of..काम ,क्रोध,मद,मोह,लोभ. So they are to be killed every year. The moment we get rid of क्रोध, मद takes it’s place. We are filled with pride that I am not like you any more I don’t get furious like you. So this is how it works .

So the remedy is done every year. And that’s what I do to myself every night.

I say sorry and also express my gratitude wherever needed.I don’t waste time in doing so and always sleep with beauty of honesty.

I don’t understand why to wait for that last call to Rest in Peace , why not, Revive in peace, Rejoy in peace, Relish in Peace.

This will dissipate everything. Please don’t hurt your body and soul by criticizing or hurting it because of what others gifted you. You came to this world with your body and soul and you will leave this world with them only.

What if these 2 file a complaint against you there in heaven in front of god where your Karma sheet is to be matched. First, fulfill the karma which you owe to your soul. They may sue you for not letting them enjoy and feel the love , be happy, as you were busy in holding grudges, regrets,pains.

Think about it once.

Zindagi Na mailegi dobara.

Will be back soon.
Till then

Apna dhyan rakhiyega
Phir milenge
Chalte Chalte.

Love yourself.

Let’s Dissipate

Let us free ourselves from the words like hurt, regret,pain, expectations etc. Just imagine how electrifying it would be to wake up with yourself every morning. Instead of waking up with what he said? What she did to me ? How could it be? Wake up with the soul that God gifted you. The one who always stood by you no matter how dark the night was , she was all nighter for you , with you. Then, why to wake up with what others gifted you, why not to wake up with what God gifted and blessed you with, your soul.

The first obligation on you is not to play the roles you have assigned yourself , your first priority should be to accomplish one relation and you know what is it,
“Khud se, khud ka rishta”.

First obey that relationship , fulfill all your roles towards it, then step forward and see the change.

What is the first thing you do when you open your eyes in the morning ?

Let me tell you. You search for your mobile phone , right? For that you have long list of excuses , the most common is , I pick it up to check the time. We too have wall clocks for it if you don’t , first gift yourself a clock.

You know this is initiation of every problem we have in life. We don’t want to move with time , we want to own it. You have purchased a mobile phone for yourself and you think you are now the owner of time. The moment you don’t get what you wish, you start the blame game and criticism. The alarm on mobile can only alert you about the time, it is you who need to make a call and pull yourself from the bed.

The next thing you should do is remember God, thank him for granting you one more day to accomplish the tasks. If you wake up with regret , then think about those who were not fortunate enough to wake up and appreciate that beautiful day, last night was actually the last night of their life.

The next thing I would ask you to do may sound kiddish to you, but trust me it is the most effective one. Kiss your wrist , hand whatever and experience the energy that flows around you. The love vibes your body will revert to you. You will be charged up. Love your body , your soul will reflect back that love to you more than the square of the infinity.

When you move to washroom , while brushing your teeth standing in front of the mirror, let those thoughts go away which makes you decide what am I supposed to do this whole day, stop planning the goal sheet there for yourself. The better thing to do is admire your mirror friend. Look into her eyes, try to perceive the emotions hidden. You won’t get this quality time with yourself for the next 12 to 15 hours may be more than that.

Dress up for yourself. Wear your swag. Be what defines you and your persona more effectively. If you won’t be comfortable with your body, your body will reflect same discomfort to you making you restless shaking your confidence. Now,.you decide whether you want to satisfy the eyes that judge you on baseless parameters or the eyes that has always perceived you on every parameter.

This will help you dissolve all negative thoughts , making your day more smooth .

Try this, I’ll be back with more solutions to dissolve the negativity from the working hours of your life and also will help you move to the bed for a sound sleep without any load of unwanted emotions.

Stay connected for more.

Zindagi Na mailegi dobara.

Will be back soon.
Till then

Apna dhyan rakhiyega

Phir milenge
Chalte Chalte.

Love yourself.

Exclusively for you “Sheroes”

Exclusively for you “Sheroes”

I don’t know whether I have the right to write like this specifying the name of a particular app or not but it was the most needed blog post from my side.

On the birthday of my blog, beforehand only, I had a schedule of topics I’ll be writing on my blog. But, suddenly this noon ,I realised how could I even think of proceeding further without expressing my gratitude to the ones, actually the truly deserving ones, because of whom I have earned the missing confidence in me.

More precisely I am writing this post to share my journey of “sheroes” . How it happened and what all I earned and learned through it.

To start with, let me first share with you that I am only a member of sheroes, so word of praise ,appreciation coming from me is not at all biased. Neither I’ll be paid for this , so I hope this makes sense , that no monetary incentive is provoking me to write this. Infact I am sure this post will be a surprise to all out there.

So it started with a conversation with one of my oldest friend. One fine day while chit chatting I was sharing with her how pissed off I am these days as I am doing nothing productive , as every other new mommies like me must have gone through the postpartum depression phase, so was I amongst them then.

So she said, do one thing download this app “sheroes” .
I enquired her ‘and what am I supposed to do with it . She said download and then you will yourself share with me what all I can do with it .

And finally, yes I have many achievements to share with many..

‘What sheroes imparted me’?

Friends, knowledge,learning, experience,hopes,path to follow, entertainment,answers to many queries,personal or professional both,zeal to live my passion etc etc etc.

How it did all at one time?

I earned many like minded friends through sheroes. They are always ready to listen and provide me the best relief when in trouble.

Whenever hesitation ruled my feelings where I didn’t want to disclose my identity they gave me the platform to speak my mind keeping my identity secured with me and presenting myself as “anonymous”.
Sheroes is concerned and connected with You. “You”are their priority. No matter who you are , where are you from?

All that matters for them is you are “she” and for them you are a hero in your own way that’s what makes you feel special and makes you love yourself even more everyday.

How did I earned knowledge?

There are various communities for every topic that fascinates you.

You can grasp the knowledge about money matter, maths, parenting, love issues, my favourite writing for which we have Aspiring writers etc. If you have knowledge , you are free to share with all there, if you need to add on to your knowledge books , you can ask and learn.

Now even you can put your suggestions and views ,without feeling embarrassed with full confidence , when the dignitaries of your family are having a discussion on money markets.Your answers are now just one click away ,all you need to do is type your query and press enter.

Champions and other members who have knowledge will guide you as your own real friend in very sophisticated way.

Now, when my toddler surprises me with any new tantrum , all I do is log in, click babygogo ,type my problem press enter and the solution is in front of me.

How do I entertain myself?

I am an active member of aspiring writer community. We eagerly wait for 3 pm quiz .I finish off my household chores asap and participate with full focus.

I realised I too have now a time table for myself. Earlier when I had a feeling what am I doing for myself. Now I have answer to that too. As I have an appointment daily fixed with aspiring writers to compete with them in challenges.

We too have 9pm debates which enables me to learn different perceptions of many issues . I must tell you these debates have made me a good listener as I passively read all the views and actively respond.

The picture prompt are like brain storming sessions for us. We enjoy churning up our minds , it’s an adventure to think the other way around and present your views with your word power.

How did I got my path to follow?

I am a passionate writer and a regular one too. I love expressing my heart,mind,soul through my pen . But I never shared with anyone because I had that fear or hesitation , maybe the next one to be trolled will be me.

Infact, in the initial days,.when I made my debut in sheroes, I always only enquired about work from home opportunities, that’s it. But, when I was a non active member of aspiring writer community, I use to read everyone’s post their poems,stories, experience . What impressed me most was the appreciation,guidance, motivation the moderators, champions use to give to every person no matter who is she, she will always recieve a feedback and applause.

This provoked the desire in me to share my writings . As expected even I received the same from them.

I have improved and I am improving daily in every sphere of life. I have learnt and earned alot from sheroes.

Learnt-

I am learning to express gratitude always .
I am learning through mistakes.
I am.learning through others experiences .
I am learning to love life and myself.
I am learning to upgrade and update myself.
And I am here to learn alot more.

Earned-

I have earned many new friends here that has added new members to my phone book and Facebook.

I have earned those valuable relationships who are always there to listen . Now, I don’t have to shuffle my phone book searching whom to call to share my mind right now. All I have to do is click,log in , share and enter.

And above all I should say this ,it’s utmost essential as “sheroes” is the live example to prove that myth wrong

“No two females can ever be best of friends”

We all are females here , and we are best friends and we too can have fun like the other creations of God.

Trust me, this won’t be a wrong choice.
Go and search and earn your identity.

Thank you Sheroes.

“Why do motivational impact fails on us?” Mathematical justifications

Why do motivational impact fails on us ?”Mathematical and logical explanation”

Depression,anxiety,stress are common these days in yours and ours life. We tend to follow different instructions to get rid of it asap. To be in high positive spirits, to experience the real joy of life, we are bound to attend many sessions on “motivation”. You must have also been part of many such events. While being a part of discourse, we are full of positive energies within us, 500percent charged up, but you must have noticed that the effect remains with us for few days and then we find ourselves back to scratch.
No, no motivational speaker can be less efficient in doing his job. They know very well how to apply the tricks to make you all positive forever. But, why it is so , that the effect remains with us for few days.

During the sessions, they induce positivity in us, which we welcome with open heart, maybe due to the aura present that moment in that hall.
We have all gone through various phases of life. Every new phase has some new offering for us. We take all the offerings in the form experiences with us in the baggage of life with separate chambers of positive and negative experience.

We always stick to these negative experience and feel disheartened every now or then. This is the reason of failure of motivational sessions on us.

I’ll try to prove my point mathematically and logically here. I am always ready with my dues as I know this generation needs justifications for every statement to believe in.

We enter the motivational zone with negative luggage in minds. “-”
The talented speakers induce positivity in us with their exemplifying behaviour. “+”

We all are aware of mathematics most popular rule..
– and + makes – .
That means their positive thoughts do enter in our minds hitting the already fixed negative experience thereby giving us the result as again – after a certain time.
Hence proved?

No, I know you must have jumped to the next rule.
– and – makes +
Right?
You must be thinking so it’s good to be negative and accept the negativity as per my logical verification.

No, I am sorry this must have hit you hard but you are wrong.

With 2 minus sign though the numbers turn out to be positive but it indicates increase in negative power. Just imagine, the single – sign has so much power, that we always consider the smallest number as greater than the biggest number.

Remember, if I ask, -3 or -4 ..which is greater? What will be your reply -3 …right?

Even if you consider the BODMAS rule you will learn that a single negative sign tends to change all the signs inside the bracket.

So, just realise the power of negativity in your life. A single negative thought can ruin the best moments of your life.

Let’s say for example.
After long time , may be after years, you went out for a shopping with your husband. He was happy to spend on you whatever amount you picked. You were on the cloud nine. That day should be the most loving day of your life. But, the moment you return home , your husband wanted you to share the news of your shopping with his mom on video call say. Now, he did that because he did the duty of husband he wanted to be a good son too. So he wanted you to share with her what you people bought for her. Now, a single negative statement from her, why did you shop? You already have so much to wear? And what you do, burst out on your husband ,shout, bring out all the past gone days in front of him.
Now, see, you were carrying with yourself that baggage of negative experience, no matter , what positive your husband did for you, all went waste. Got my point.

So, let’s make a promise before moving to positivity let’s accept the negative inside us and make efforts to dissipate it then and there itself.

Dissolve the negativity by accepting it and make efforts to dissipate it before it dissolves the happiness that is stored for us in future.

“Dissipate the negativity before it dissipate the happiness in you”

Now, I know you all must be saying it’s easy said than done. But, I can surely justify this also that it can be done.

Will be back soon.

Till then

“Apna dhyan rakhiyega”
Phir milenge
Chalte chalte.

Love life.